Custody Agreement Questions
February 7, 2008
Do you both agree to have the same custody agreements for all your children? If both parents agree on joint custody, the next question should be: “How does this arrangement benefit our child?” If he is very young, making an agreement to move him from one parent’s home to the other several times each week is too disruptive.
If your child moves from one house to the other without a enough time to adjust and find a consistant rythmn, he may begin to feel unsafe and emotionally unstable. It is important to establish consistent routines in each home because children need structure.
Longer periods of time spent with each parent may be preferable so one week on and one week off may be a better arrangement.
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Parents can agree to have a different custody agreement for each child. Because of the difference in ages, the rules may well be different for each child.
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Marc | July 16, 2008 at 4:32 am
My ex-wife and I have been seperated for 8 years and my 9 year od daughter live with her mother in North Carolina and I have visitation in summer, spring and every other Christmas here in California. This summer my daughter said she wants to move out here next year when she turns ten. I told her that she needs to be sure that is what she wants and that she needs to tell her mom when she is sure. She told her mom today on the phone instead of waiting. Her mom understandably is not happy and said she would never let that happen. I am wondering what the court would say in a situation like this. She will be ten when she moves.
Any advice would be greatly apreciated. On emore note. She has siblings at both homes and her own bedroon etc.
Thanks for the advice.
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Henry Koltys | July 16, 2008 at 7:57 pm
Since the venue for the case appears to be in the North Carolina jurisdiction the judge there will make the decision unless you and your wife can agree, assuming you both share legal and physical custody.
Typically judges give more weight to the wishes of the child when they are age 12 and older, depending upon the maturity of the child and situation in each parent home. Check with the court administration or legal aid office in North Carolina to get their opinion.
Perhaps you could make a deal with your wife to test the waters, beginning with summers and all vacations in California. It would not make sense to have your daughter alternate years between parents/states.
Good luck!
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rosemary lewis | August 4, 2008 at 11:22 pm
i got guardianship for 12 months of my 14 yr old grandaughter my daughter which is her mom were haveing problems we went and had papers done all in one day i have an adhd child which is 8 and these arrangements is not working out,plus in october i will be leaveing the state i want to know since her mom do not want her back in her home what can i do i cannot continue to keep her
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Charlee | February 20, 2009 at 2:34 am
I have a question my husbands daughter is 14 yrs old and lives with her mom and step dad in Min. she wants to move down here to Ar. with us but her mom will not let her. I was wanting to know if we had to go up there and see the judge or if we could take care of it from here in our state? Her mom has her on anti-depressents and some other drugs that she really dont need to be on and I know that if she was down here with us she would not need them. The only way that we are allowed to see her is if we drive up there and get her, her mom will not even let her fly or take a bus to come down here even if we buy the ticket. I do not think this is right but what can we do? Any comments or advice would be greatly apreciated.
Thanks everyone.